We know we do this.
We know other people do this.
But for some reason, when it comes to our self-talk we’ve chosen to selectively forget that we know everyone does this and feel shame because we think we’re the only ones.
What I’m I talking about here?
Pillar One – Reprogram Your Self-Talk
We follow so many habits in our day. We get up and check our phones without stopping to think “what should I do first?” and we brush our teeth, maybe make some coffee all without thinking.
Our habits also apply to our self-talk.
When we have a triggering event, like an awkward conversation or something not going as planned, our brain automatically jumps into our predetermined patterns, and our self-talk follows.
But the truth is our self-talk is actually just the symptom of the underlying problem.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the “cheat-day” mentality before. Just in case you haven’t, it goes something like this:
You stick to your diet plan for six days and then “cheat” on your diet one day a week and eat whatever you want.
Or maybe you say that you’ll allow yourself to have a “cheat meal” or you decide to order dessert and say “It’s okay, I’ve been good lately, I can “cheat” on my diet a little bit today.”
This way of thinking is broken, though, and in this episode I’m going to tell you why.